Be the Kind of Parent
You Want to Be!
Partner When It Matters Most,
In Times of Transition...
TRUSTEstablish a relationship with your children based on trust, connection, communication. |
RESTExperience rest, ease, and peaceful presence with your kids. |
HEALBegin healing wounds you experienced as a kid, so your kids don't have to. |
No Parent Starts Off
Knowing What To Do...
Without conscious effort, our parenting methods can create confusing conflicts instead of secure connections, especially when everything seems to be changing around.
The authoritarian way most of us have been taught to parent, creates conflict and frustration, endless power struggles, and leaves us with fragmented relationships with our kids. Times of change challenge connections and at the same time provide a golden opportunity to cultivate and repair our relationships through communication and compassion for all involved.
When we parent our kids without working through our own history, we are destined to repeat painful patterns we experienced as kids, no matter how badly we want it to be different. Transitions make us even more vulnerable to established and familiar ways of parenting. In these moments, we all need partners in belonging so that we minimize harm done unintentionally.
It's Never Too Late
To Turn Things Around...
No matter what you relationship with your kids looks like right now, there is hope - even in midst of overwhelming changes.
Depending on where things are at, it can be hard to believe there is truly another way. But I guarantee you - there is another way - one that works for both you and your kids.
None of us start off as parents knowing what to do. We make plans, try to be the people we want to be and watch as our good intentions vanish with the reality of daily life and the immense pressures of caretaking. And once something changes, we can easily begin to question everything we know about parenting and even loving our kids. Confusion, exhaustion, and hopelessness can cloud and sabotage our best intentions at times of transitions.
Hi again! I'm Joris.
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I became a parent coach because I want to help parents not feel alone and overwhelmed while raising their kiddos. I want them to connect with their kiddos without feeling like they are sacrificing or losing themselves in the process. I found my partners in parenting once my husband and I started thinking about having a child. Being both social scientists and researchers, our first partners were books about parenting. My husband created a mini-library on the matter of child development and parenting, and I did most of the reading. I found The Whole Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline books by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson so helpful and practical (I loved the graphic illustrations in them).
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Though, from these books, and from many other books I read on parenting, it is difficult to find much guidance about parenting in a multicultural family. So we did our own reflection on the expectations and the legacy we brought to parenting given we were both from different cultures - countries and socio-economic backgrounds. These partnership resulted in writing and publishing together a book chapter titled "Dogmamis cocuga don bicmek: Visions of a Multicultural Family" in the edited volume Mediating Cultures: Parenting in Intercultural Contexts (2014). We ended up being so grateful for this opportunity to reflect on parenting. We learned a lot from what typically was viewed as a futile endeavor in Turkish - "to sew underwear for the unborn child."
And though books were good partners, they did not talk back or reflect back to us the stories that came up in different moments around parenting - with in-laws, our own parents, among ourselves. And holding time became so difficult when our kiddo entered this life on Earth. Therapies were our other important partners, through which we were able to process all the cultural changes and traumatic experiences that caught up with our bodies. I was constantly on the move - commuting for half of my graduate studies, with a newborn in a new neighborhood, and then moving to a new state, and moving to another rental and transitioning into a new job, then a career shift into the private sector, COVID-time education challenges, and trying to stay in touch with families in far away continents. Doing so much and tired so often.
But my burdens were lightened once I re-found nature and my Self as partners in my parenting journey. I know my approach to parenting works - not only for my kid but most importantly for me. I am here now to invite you to partner with me in your journey and access your Self energy and see what will lighten your burdens and make your beauty and wisdom available and supporting of your kids and all other meaningful relationships around you. You do not have to be alone. We can do it together. It is never too late and I hold so much hope for you and the future of the kiddos you will support grow!
And though books were good partners, they did not talk back or reflect back to us the stories that came up in different moments around parenting - with in-laws, our own parents, among ourselves. And holding time became so difficult when our kiddo entered this life on Earth. Therapies were our other important partners, through which we were able to process all the cultural changes and traumatic experiences that caught up with our bodies. I was constantly on the move - commuting for half of my graduate studies, with a newborn in a new neighborhood, and then moving to a new state, and moving to another rental and transitioning into a new job, then a career shift into the private sector, COVID-time education challenges, and trying to stay in touch with families in far away continents. Doing so much and tired so often.
But my burdens were lightened once I re-found nature and my Self as partners in my parenting journey. I know my approach to parenting works - not only for my kid but most importantly for me. I am here now to invite you to partner with me in your journey and access your Self energy and see what will lighten your burdens and make your beauty and wisdom available and supporting of your kids and all other meaningful relationships around you. You do not have to be alone. We can do it together. It is never too late and I hold so much hope for you and the future of the kiddos you will support grow!
The Traditional Ways of Parenting
Are Not Working For You...
Struggling with our children can lead to feelings of guilt and regret that we're just not doing a good job as a parent.
I believe that the real issue is that we're not taught how to become the kind of parents most of us long to be, so we end up slipping into the patterns that were ingrained in us in our own childhoods.
I understand how hard it is to ask for help as a parent. Which is why when you contact me, you will be met with understanding, a non-judgemental openness and a supportive, personalized, effective plan that I will personally guide you through every step of the way.
I work with:
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I work with clients who are grappling with:
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Here's How It Works
When you book a call with me, we discuss how my approach can support your specific needs, and decide if and how we will start your journey within together.
No pressure, just gratitude that we have an opportunity to see if we are a good fit!
No pressure, just gratitude that we have an opportunity to see if we are a good fit!
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First, we will talk about what is going on for you and your family, and where I can offer initial support.
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Then, I will explain my approach and the options we have for working together. You can ask any questions you have and see what type of support would best fit your life and schedule.
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If it feels right to you, we can book our first session and get started. If it is not a good fit, I will do my best to offer alternative resources or suggestions for support.
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